of frogs and princes
i am trying my best to act as if nothing traumatizing happened the past week because based on experience, i am not good at dealing with things when i’m emotional, and i do not want other people to suffer my wrath (when in reality, some can attest to how unreasonable i can be under pressure).
i didn’t want to write in response to the post written for me and intended for the whole world to see; but i felt that somehow, i could have prevented this to happen if i only swallowed my ego and explained my side right away. unfortunately, people and recurring issues can be stressful sometimes and i wanted to be spared from all of it.
just to set things straight,i said that i LIKED him before. if you ask me now, (and i have told him a gazillion times before) i can tell you with all honesty that i gave up on him. i do not see myself with him anymore as i have accepted certain things in life such as “growing old with someone i love is optional”, as well as “friendship is more important than a romantic relationship”. in the same manner, i was awakened by the fact that hanging out with a guy who likes me would mean giving him HOPE that one day, i’ll realize his worth, love every inch of him and understand him.
i had offered my friendship before i stopped entertaining the thought that there’s a romantic future between us and i made it clear that that’s only how far it’ll go for both of us. hence, i believed, and i still do that i can hope on other people, drunk dial my ex, go out with other people and have as much fun as i want to (without undermining the care and concern i have for someone i LIKED).
i think that i blurted out my frustrations to my friends. and i certainly did not intend the rest of the world to know. i do not wish to resolve things that i have no control of. i can only hope for the best.
this quarter has been a very interesting quarter for me as i’ve encountered princes in different shapes and sizes, and how life-changing they can be sometimes.
i’d like to think that i am smart enough to distinguish a frog from a prince,and how to value friendships without losing self-respect.
–cubi, sleepy
Stacy said,
October 13, 2009 at 10:38 pm
Hi, I stumbled upon your blog by accident. I read what you wrote, and I also looked through the guy’s link. Wow.
Okay, here’s what I think. I think you’re right – if the guy to you isn’t the one you want, that’s perfectly fine. You have the right to choose who you want for yourself. There are a lot of jerks out there who can hurt you, after all.
But girl? This guy? I’m not sure about you, but if my dude wrote me something like that, then I’m definitely taking him back, warts and all.
It’s not everyday we see somebody who knows how to put up with all our negative points, and still comes back for more, everyday. We think boys are only after one thing, but by the sound of it? This guy’s in deep, and he really wants to look out for you.
And yeah. If you can’t see it for what it is, maybe it’s not his warts that keep you away from him. Maybe it’s you.
After all, it’s when we kiss the frogs that they become real princes worth making king.
Good luck!
Katie said,
October 28, 2009 at 11:04 pm
Hello! I saw this blog on WordPress. I gotta say, that’s quite a lot of heavy stuff to handle. So yeah, props to you for dealing with it.
But I can also tell – you wrote this when you were upset right? How about now? Do you still feel this way about the dude?
I’m curious because I had to go through something similar – I had somebody really important to me discover that he really cared for me. But I got scared. Long story short, he hurt me bad, but I wasn’t totally innocent either. It was really messy and complicated, and to this day we’re still not talking.
I miss him. I realize that I lost out on somebody I could’ve been happy with. And I gotta ask: are you still THIS angry? I dunno what happened with you two, but I think how you replied to what he said (and all he said in a nutshell was “I don’t like your drama, but I still want you.”) was way out of line. It’s like you said to him “my fun is more important than your feelings”. Hell, I’d be doubly impressed if he still wanted to be friends with you in any way.
If you can’t see that, then that’s sad. That’s because, well, forget standards on what frogs and princes are – you might lose on a real keeper like I did. And I don’t want that for you.
Cristina Cheng said,
November 16, 2009 at 9:25 am
How interesting, the things I find on WordPress! Hi, I liked reading your blog, including the earlier stuff. You’re a good writer. I like how your stuff is so heartfelt, and I hope you keep updating this! Especially since this last post is a cliffhanger!
This guy, is he still good to you? Did you shove him out of your life? Personally, I don’t like guys who hang on and linger. I like giving them a hard time until they leave and never come back.
It hurts to hurt somebody. But that’s what I like – if the guy keeps coming back, weeks, months, years into the thing… that’s when I know he loves me. When that happens, throw out your standards. When it’s love, you can run all you want but it’s there and it’s real, and you just go with it!
And you better take care of him if he stays! If he finds someone new, he’ll disappear and you’d have lost somebody who didn’t care about the crap you tossed because he loved you.